Regardless of your past, tomorrow is a clean slate.
Don’t waste time placing blame; fix the cause
The choices you make today will determine what you will have, be, and do in the tomorrows of your life.
We are free up to the point of choice, then the choice controls the chooser.
Fifteen percent of the reason you get a job, keep that job, and move ahead in that job, is determined by your technical skill and knowledge while 85 percent of the reason you get a job, will keep that job, and move ahead in that job has to do with your people skills and people knowledge.
you can have everything in life you want if you will just help enough other people get what they want.
No matter how brilliant or technically capable you are, you wont be effective as a leader unless you gain the willing cooperation of others
Cooperation is not getting the other fellow to do what you want. Rather, it means getting him to want to do what you want.
Realistically, if you have a surbodinate who always agrees, watch out! It is probably because he lacks self starting qualities, the abilities to think for himself, or both.
The sensitive, effective leader knows that to get real cooperation he must understand he probably doesnt have all the facts or feelings about anything.
Dynamic leaders understand that anyone can get along and work with those who agree with them. Real leadership involves getting along, working with, and getting maximum production from those with whom we disagree.
Effective leaders develop the ability to see things from the other person’s perspective. They sell the advantages of cooperation instead of demanding it
The successful leader starts with the basic premise that other person is probably at least partially right and, consequently, doesnt let his own prejudice stand in the way of accepting valid counterproposals and ideas. He knows ideas dont care who owns or uses them, so he wins cooperation with open mind
I will pay more for the ability to deal with people than any other ability under the sun…. John D. Rockefeller
Our chief want is someone who will inspire us to be what we know we could be….Emerson
The trouble with most of us is that we would rather be ruined by praise than saved by criticism…. Dr Norman Vincent
The greatest good we can do for others is not to share our riches with them, but to reveal theirs to them
If you want to get the best out of a man, you must look for the best that is in him….Bernard Haldane
Pygmalion Effect (sometimes called the “echo effect” or the “mirror effect”)….the concept rests on the premise that what we see reflected in many objects, situations, or persons is what we put there with our own expectations
William James, the father of American psychology, concluded that we become how we act…so if we wish to conquer undesirable emotional tendencies in ourselves, we must go through the outward movements of the kind of tendencies we wish to cultivate
Look for what you want not for what you dont want.
…..so we need to be subtle-congenial yet cunning, democratic yet devious
Leadership is the capacity and will to rally men and women to a common purpose and the character which inspires confidence.
Character is more than talk. Action is the real indicator of character while character determines who you are and who you are determines what you see. what you see determines what you do.
Talent is a gift but character is a choice. Leaders cannot rise above the limitations of their character.
If you think you are leading and no one is following you, then you are only taking a walk.
A leader not only stays above the line between right and wrong, he stays well clear of the gray areas.
The first impression can seal the deal.
Be more concerned about making others feel good about themselves than you are making them feel good about you.
When it comes to charisma, the bottom line is othermindedness. Leaders who think about others and their concerns before thinking of themselves exhibit charisma.
Nothing is easier than saying words, nothing is harder than living them day after day.
What is needed is a realisation that power without love is reckless and abusive and that love without power is sentimental anemic. Power at its best is love implementing the demands of justice. Justice at its best is love correcting everything that stands against love.
The best way to get what you want, however, is to think like a detective: Dig for information that will help you understand the other side.
Success is the ability to go from one failure to another without loss of enthusiasm.
….enjoy provoking waves and then calming them, deliberately create storms and then quietens them and pour oils on troubled waters which were smooth before
If you convince someone you might not persuade him to take action but this can be achieved by question-asking technique…… socratic technique
The chenese say that a journey of a thousand leagues begins with a single step.
When it comes to commitment,there are really only four types of people:
Cop-outs. people who have no goals and do not commit.
Holdouts. people who dont know if they can reach their goals, so they are afraid to commit.
Dropouts. people who start toward a goal but quit when the going gets tough
All-out. people who set goals, commit to them, and pay the price to reach them.
All things come to him who wait but unfortunately sometimes it’s just the leftovers from the people who got there first
Quality is never an accident; it is always the result of high intention, sincere effort, intelligent direction and skillful execution; it represents the wise choice of many alternatives
Many with the mindset of survival will end up struggling to survive. Onawale sephen